Tips on dating someone with mental health issues.

This blog will be about exactly what the title says. I will be going over tips on dating someone with a mental illness starting all the way at the beginning. This may be a 2 part blog. Let's begin. 

1. If you know the person has a mental illness you might have to make the first move. "Why you ask?" Well most of us that suffer from depression have low have low self esteem. Meaning we feel like we are ugly and no one wants to be with us. It's very hard for us to make the first move cause we are afraid of rejection or what the other person is going to say. Also some of us have trouble reading people. We may feel like they are into us then find out that they are just really friendly. This happens a lot. That is why we are afraid to make the first move. 

2. Once you are dating each other sometimes theymthey ask you "why are you with me?" Those is not an insult to y'all or anything this just goes back to number one where we feel no one wants to be with us. 

3. Let's say y'all have been together for a while and one day y'all get into a fight and argue and they try and take a low shot at you saying " you stick and need to shower!" The person with the illness knows they need to shower but when you're depressed personal hygiene goes out they window and even the easiest tasks become the most difficult. You just have to watch out for signs of them being depressed and support them and not blast them. 

4. Also when fighting even if it's a small fight and you are over it. They may say to you"please don't breakup with me." We are just scared even about the smallest fights. The person with the illness may feel that you're the best thing that has ever happened to them and they don't want to lose you. 

5. Sometimes some  may think that your cheating on them when in reality you are not. That's just their insecurities showing and the longer that you're with them they eventually go away. 

6. Just go easy on them and give it time things will get better. There best thing for you to do is to be as supportive as possible and to show them that you are there for them. Once they have a bond with you we normally open up more to you and tell you things that they haven't told anyone else. 

It is tough dating someone with mental health issues sometimes but just know that we are caring and lucky to have you in our life. Who knows you may be able to help them with their low self esteem and insecurity issues by the end of everything just by being there for them and listening to them. Also if you're having a hard time we are they best people to be with due to the fact that we've gone through all sorts of obstacles in our life and we are always there to listen. 

Well I guess I only had to write one blog lol. If I left anything out you'd like me to talk about feel free to comment. Also if you like my blogs please hit the follow button it'll really help out a lot to show that there's other people that are going through the same thing as well. I know a lot of people don't want to hit the follow button due to the subject of the blogs and they don't want other people to know. 

Everyone have a great weekend and stay tuned for my next blog!

Music and how it can trigger your addiction!

Many people like listening to music. Lyrics are just words in a song. But to some people the lyrics can trigger your addiction. For example some rappers like singing about and glamorizing drugs. Take for instance my all time favorite rapper Mac Miller; most of his songs had to do with drugs. If a regular person listened to his songs they probably won't go out and try the drugs he's talking about in his songs but an addict would be like "Well if he is doing this I should try it also." Being in recovery from drugs it's hard for me to listen to any rapper talking about drugs. That goes the same for other singers. Another example Mickey avalon. Pretty much all of his songs are about doing drugs. I mean CA crack cocaine? What do you think that songs going to be about lol? For people that are early in recovery it might not be the best idea to listen to songs that have to do with drugs. That's just my opinion. 

Songs about recovering from addiction on the other hand are different like for instance a couple of rappers that sing about recovery are Chris Webby and MGK. Although both of them in sure still smoke weed. 

In conclusion; if you're still early in recovery and don't have a lot of self restraint try to lower the ways you can get triggered and see if that works. Even though you'd be cutting out some of your favorite artists. This past Monday I celebrated 6 months of sobriety. I still have a lifetime ahead of myself but it's a small step in the right direction. Everyone can get sober if they truly want to. I believe in everybody. 

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